Neufeld

a primer on anger

My study of anger began when my daughter was small. Her expression of anger challenged me, and my own troubled me. I needed an easier relationship with anger to better serve us both.

The most useful of my learning about anger has come from the developmental psychologist Dr Gordon Neufeld's work on aggression.  What follows is a summary of what I've learned from him about anger.

how to get your needs met

Considering whether our relationship needs are met, it seems natural to examine whether we're receiving enough love and caring to satisfy our longing. But as adults — particularly as parents — we have far fewer opportunities to receive caring than we do to provide it. The good news is that our longing for connection is also fed by giving our caring.