Powerful theory and personal coaching — to parent kids who flourish

Get Dr Gordon Neufeld's insight into human development and relationship, with guidance from Jenni as you apply it within your family, all in the context of a group of remarkably thoughtful parents.

We gather for heartfelt in-person discussion after you watch videos on your own. Our discussions delve into the material and how to make use of it in parenting your children, specifically addressing your family's challenges.

What you teach and how you teach it is, in a small part, the way that humanity needs to develop. You’re having a definite positive impact in our children’s lives.
— Ben

Power to Parent series

Get guiding principles of parenting from the roots of relationship to the fruit of maturity.

Find inspiration in a profound and encouraging philosophy of parenting, and practical guidance to provide what your children need to thrive. Get an accessible and compelling explanation of the science of relationship and human development from Dr Gordon Neufeld's videos, insight and advice for your family from Jenni as course facilitator and parent coach, and support and compassion from a community of committed parents.

Part one, The Vital Connection – strengthen your relationship with your child

Part two, Helping Children Grow Up – raise your children to their full potential

Part three, Common Childhood Challenges – address parenting troubles

Each of the three courses includes an in-depth exploration of what children need from the adults who raise them through eight hours of video, nine facilitated class meetings, and a three-month student pass to the Neufeld Institute's virtual campus with access to course videos and an abundance of supporting materials.

A cohort meets each academic year (September to May), with the three Power to Parent courses offered in sequence.

+ The Vital Connection

SYLLABUS
Welcome: Introductions and Orientation
Why Children Need to be in Right Relationship to the Adults Responsible for Them
How a Child’s Relationship to the Parent is Meant to Develop
How to Harness the Power of Attachment
How to Keep From Losing a Child to Competing Attachments
How to Preserve (or Restore) the Ties that Empower
How to Deal with Aggression Without Disrupting the Connection
How to Deal with Resistance Without Sabotaging the Relationship
How to Use Discipline that is Attachment-Safe and Developmentally Friendly

Detailed Neufeld Institute course description

$200 includes streaming video access (add $75 for optional DVDs)

+ Helping Children Grow Up

SYLLABUS
Parents and the Miracle of Maturation
How to Give Children the Rest They Need to Grow
The Keys to Independence and Responsibility
How to Help Children Become Their Own Persons
Keys to Resilience, Resourcefulness & Recovery
How to Help Children Accept Limits and Adapt to Circumstances
Keys to Emotional and Social Maturity
How to Help Children Find Their Self-Control and Social Sensitivity

Detailed Neufeld Institute course description

$200 includes streaming video access (add $75 for optional DVDs)

+ Common Childhood Challenges

SYLLABUS
Thinking Developmentally When Facing Challenges
Recognizing the Signs of Trouble
Living with a Sensitive Child
Softening the Defenses in a Child
Cultivating Resilience in a Child
Leading an Alpha Child
Disciplining a Stuck Child
Putting the Developmental Approach into Practice
Closing: Course Review and Goodbyes

Detailed Neufeld Institute course description

$200 includes streaming video access (add $75 for optional DVDs)


Adolescence

Gracefully facilitate your child's passage from childhood to adulthood. Get a clearer understanding of the turmoil of teen years and help your pre-teen or teen emerge from adolescence as a capable, confident adult.

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In this class we'll:

  • combine Dr Gordon Neufeld's Making Sense of Adolescence course with Jenni Pertuset's group and individual coaching — for a clear picture of the purpose and path of adolescence, along with practical insight and advice for your specific struggles
  • view one hour of video in advance of each meeting on your own — so that we have a shared starting point for discussion and understanding
  • come together for two-hour group coaching sessions in Ballard — for answers and advice personalized to your challenges
  • gather as small cohort — large enough for robust discussion, small enough for personalized attention
  • hold 7 one-on-one half-hour check-in calls for each participant (or parenting pair) with Jenni — for private and personal coaching and connection between meetings
  • meet 8 times — plenty of time to put things into practice in your family, settle into rhythms and see what's working, and get coaching and peer support
  • focus on children ages 10-15 — share with other parents facing challenges of the pre- and early teen years
  • access the Neufeld Institute's virtual campus — to view streaming course videos and reference an abundance of supporting materials

 
SCHEDULE

2019 schedule to be determined

 

MAKING SENSE OF ADOLESCENCE SYLLABUS

Dr Neufeld's Making Sense of Adolescence course is an in-depth exploration of the bridge from childhood to adulthood through eight hours of video.

Crossing the Bridge – adolescence in perspective
The Paths Diverge – conformity versus individuality
Walking through Aloneness and Sadness – the necessary road to individuation
Taking a Wrong Turn – when peers replace adults
The Counterwill Storm – how to survive teen resistance
Becoming Tempered – the key to adolescent balance and stability
Reclaiming Our Youth – how to hold, or win back, their hearts Becoming a Sexual Being – the pursuit of proximity in another dimension

See the Neufeld Institute site for a detailed course description.

 
COST
 
$375 in three payments of $125 (or $350 paid in full)


Aggression

Handle aggressive incidents and resolve the problem at its source.

Gain insight into why your child attacks -- whether hitting, spitting, screaming, or sarcasm -- and learn how to handle it without making matters worse.

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Dr Gordon Neufeld's videos explain aggression's source and solutions, and Jenni Pertuset's group coaching offers practical insight and advice for your specific struggles.

The course includes an in-depth exploration of aggression through four hours of video, facilitated class meetings, and a three month student pass to the Neufeld Institute's virtual campus with access to course videos and an abundance of
supporting materials.

MAKING SENSE OF AGGRESSION SYLLABUS
Frustration, Attachment, and Aggression
Tears, Temper, and Attack
Handling and Reducing Incidents and Violence
Facilitating Alternate Outcomes to Aggression

Detailed Neufeld Institute course description: click here

$125 includes streaming video access (add $50 for optional DVDs)


Alpha Children

Restore your lead with demanding, bossy, competitive, or bullying kids.

Learn why children seek to be in charge and make parenting easier by bringing them under your wing. Get help with related issues including anxiety, aggression, oppositionality, and eating problems.

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Dr Gordon Neufeld's videos explain the reasons for and resolution of an alpha drive gone awry and Jenni Pertuset's group coaching offers practical insight and advice for your specific struggles.

The course includes an in-depth exploration of alpha and dependent instincts through four hours of video, facilitated
class meetings, and a three month student pass to the Neufeld Institute's virtual campus with access to course videos
and an abundance of supporting materials.

ALPHA CHILDREN SYLLABUS
Making Sense of Alpha
The Many Faces of Alpha
The Causes and Consequences of an Alpha Complex
Taming an Alpha Complex

Detailed Neufeld Institute course description: click here

$125 includes streaming video access (add $50 for optional DVDs)


Anxiety

Bring your anxious or agitated child to rest. Learn what drives anxiety, along with solutions for reducing it in your child (and yourself).

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Dr Gordon Neufeld's videos explain anxiety's source and solutions, and Jenni Pertuset's group coaching offers practical insight and advice for your specific struggles.

The course includes an in-depth exploration of anxiety through four hours of video, facilitated class meetings, and a three month student pass to the Neufeld Institute's virtual campus with access to course videos and an abundance of supporting materials.

MAKING SENSE OF ANXIETY SYLLABUS
Neuroscience of Anxiety
Anxiety, Attachment & Vulnerability
Working Model of Anxiety
Addressing Anxiety

Detailed Neufeld Institute course description: click here

$125 includes streaming video access (add $50 for optional DVDs)


Bullies

Soften the heart of a bully and keep would-be victims safe.

Schools and parents will gain tools for intervention in the face of the bully's relationship troubles, immaturity, and hardened heart.

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Dr Gordon Neufeld's videos explain the causes of bullying and how to address them, and Jenni Pertuset's group coaching offers practical insight and advice for your specific struggles.

The course includes an in-depth exploration of bullying through four hours of video, facilitated class meetings, and a three month student pass to the Neufeld Institute's virtual campus with access to course videos and an abundance of supporting materials.

BULLIES SYLLABUS
The Heart and Mind of a Bully
The Personality of a Bully
The Making of a Bully
The Unmaking of Bullies

Detailed Neufeld Institute course description: click here

$125 includes streaming video access (add $50 for optional DVDs)


Counterwill

Defuse your child's defiance.

Discover why kids resist and oppose adult direction and get tools to gain their cooperation.

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Dr Gordon Neufeld's videos explain the reasons for resistance -- also called counterwill -- and how to overcome it, and Jenni Pertuset's group coaching offers practical insight and advice for your specific struggles.

The course includes an in-depth exploration of counterwill through four hours of video, facilitated class meetings, and a three month student pass to the Neufeld Institute's virtual campus with access to course videos and an abundance of supporting materials.

MAKING SENSE OF COUNTERWILL SYLLABUS
Why Kids Resist and How to Deal with It
Counterwill and Attachment
Counterwill and Individuation
Handling Counterwill

Detailed Neufeld Institute course description: click here

$125 includes streaming video access (add $50 for optional DVDs)


Discipline

Nurture good behavior with attachment-safe and developmentally-friendly strategies.

Get help handling difficult incidents and address the deeper roots of problem behavior.

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Dr Gordon Neufeld's videos a philosophical and practical approach to discipline, and Jenni Pertuset's group coaching offers insight and advice for your specific struggles.

The course includes an in-depth exploration of discipline through four hours of video, facilitated class meetings, and a three month student pass to the Neufeld Institute's virtual campus with access to course videos and an abundance of supporting materials.

MAKING SENSE OF DISCIPLINE SYLLABUS
Cracking Nature's Code for Good Behavior
Discipline Methods to Avoid
Discipline that Doesn't Divide
Disciplining a Stuck Child

Detailed Neufeld Institute course description: click here

$125 includes streaming video access (add $50 for optional DVDs)


Play

Encourage brain-building play for your young child.

Get insight into the critical role of play in learning and healthy development and strategies for cultivating true play.

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Dr Gordon Neufeld's videos explain play's profound purpose and how to encourage it, and Jenni Pertuset's group coaching offers practical insight and advice for your family or organization.

The course includes an in-depth exploration of play through two hours of video and a facilitated class meeting.

MAKING SENSE OF PLAY SYLLABUS
Why Children Need to Play
What Children Need to Be Able to Play

Detailed Neufeld Institute course description: click here


Preschoolers

Find ease in parenting through the mercurial years of early childhood.

Gain an appreciation for the developmental purpose of young children's maddening behaviors, and guidance for helping your child grow out of them.

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Dr Gordon Neufeld's videos explain the puzzle of the preschooler, and Jenni Pertuset's group coaching offers practical insight and advice for your specific struggles parenting children ages 2-5 (and immature kids of all ages).

The course includes an in-depth exploration of early childhood through six hours of video, facilitated class meetings, and a three month student pass to the Neufeld Institute's virtual campus with access to course videos and an abundance of supporting materials.

MAKING SENSE OF PRESCHOOOLERS SYLLABUS
Welcome: Introductions and Orientation
Three Natural Shortcomings Not to Trip Over
Three Irreducible Needs That Must Be Met
Three Typical Problems Not to Nip in the Bud
Six Common Mistakes Not to Make

Detailed Neufeld Institute course description: click here

$200 includes streaming video access (add $75 for optional DVDs)


Transplanting Children

Raise step- and adoptive children to their full potential.

You'll gain insight into the profound impact of separation on transplanted children and learn strategies for parenting them effectively and facilitating their healing and recovery.

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Dr Gordon Neufeld's videos explain how to help transplanted children thrive and Jenni Pertuset's group coaching offers practical insight and advice for your specific struggles, with a particular focus on the challenges of separated and blended families.

The course includes an in-depth exploration of raising children not born to you, through eight hours of video, facilitated class meetings, and a three month student pass to the Neufeld Institute's virtual campus with access to course videos and an abundance of supporting materials.

THE ART AND SCIENCE OF TRANSPLANTING CHILDREN SYLLABUS
Welcome: Introductions and Orientation
Becoming Attached
Why Children Need to Attach
Fostering Attachment
The Impact of Separation
Impediments to Re-attachment: Protective Shyness
Impediments to Re-attachment: Defensive Detachment
Keeping children safe and helping children adapt
Disciplining Transplanted Children

Detailed Neufeld Institute course description: click here

$200 includes streaming video access (add $75 for optional DVDs)